Monday, June 8, 2015

Sex and The Disbled.....The Disconnect

You know, I remember taking Sex Ed in Junior High. And as I look back now at my life and where I’ve gone, as well as my thought process, I think that I would stop and say “Wait, how does this help me?” I have long thought that there’s been a real disconnect between the “non-disabled” or “able-bodied” and the disabled, on many fronts. And that’s because of a lack of understanding, and the incorrect perception that we, the disabled, can’t do many things, such as, have sex.
One of the misconceptions is that we can’t. People think that we can’t, and usually that’s it. Case closed, end of story. So we are left to live our lives.
Here’s the thing, and I do this too. Don’t make assumptions. Don’t assume that people who are different than you, can’t do something, like have sex. Or that we don’t think about sex. Because believe me we do. Or is that just me?….Uhoh (lol) This stems partially from a lack of understanding, ignorance. And most people, the “able-bodied” are okay with their ignorance.
Well on behalf of all of us. Wake up! We’d like to have sex too. We’d like to be in a relationship with a man or woman who cares for us, and loves us for who we are on the outside, as well as on the inside. Now I’m not going to sit here and tell you that every person with a disability isn’t in a relationship, there are many that are, and I am genuinely happy for them, and yet secretly jealous at the same time. How do they do it, I’d like to know.
Let’s get back to sex for a moment. Being disabled can encompass many things. Some may not be able to walk(like me) some might have a speech impediment and not be able to speak well. Some, again like me, aren’t able to feel their genitalia. And to some that hurts. It’s extremely frustrating not being able to feel your penis. Even worse, not being able to cum or ejaculate. Or to ejaculate and not know unless you put your hand down there and feel that you have, essentially made a little mess. That’s reassuring that your doctors were wrong in telling you that ejaculation wasn’t possible. There’s a certain validation in that.
We are people too. We are part of society. Don’t shut us out based on something that you think you might know. But are probably dead wrong.


Friday, June 5, 2015

Life. And All That's With It

I'm 36 yrs old, and at times I don't feel like I have much to show for it. Sure, I'm a nice guy, a very nice guy, whatever. But I don't have a job, I'm collecting Social Security, which I am not thrilled about. And I have a case of what I call undiagnosed ADD up the wazoo. I'm not sure what I want to do as fair as a career, and my future consists of going day by day. 

I want more. I want something to happen. I want something to give. I don't know..I know that I give up on things way too quickly. Basically if I don't get what I want now, I won't strive for it. I don't know if I know what I want. No, I want to make some money, Ha like we all due. And the economy is improving, as much we don't want to admit it. I just want something to happen. I want that "Thing" to pop into my head and say "Hey, do this." 

Podcasting. Podcasting isn't a job for me, it isn't a profession, it's a hobby. And this hobby is starting to get harder to do. And then it's almost summer, so listeners, live listeners will probably be scares. Hell, Live listensers have been scares since around 2012. Make money? I probably could make money doing this. I could make money doing practically anything, but I'm too scared to take a chance. To take a chance on doing something that doesn't fall within the "status quo", what most of society sees as "normal". 

Normal, that's a joke. Normal, what is normal? Is normal going to work at 7, 8 o'clock, working 8 hours and coming home? I don't think it is anymore. Why can't everything be like The Brady Bunch, or Happy Days etc? Because that's what is deemed normal. But history has shown, is showing that we're changing. Our history, Our mindset, Our believes are changing. Even our perceptions of right and wrong, morality and decency. We are in an ever changing world. If we don't grow, we don't move on. 

If we hadn't have grown, do you think we would cars, cable, computers, The George Foreman Grill. (lol) Okay......
But seriously, if we hadn't succumb to change, where would we be? I would probably be in a wooden wheelchair.  lol. We'd all be riding covered wagons and cooking our food by the fire. 

I know that I need to get my shit in gear. I know that. But when? ....I'm not getting any younger. Yeah lol, that's another story for another time. (lol)